July 3, 2007
Today I will lose both of my breasts to a double mastectomy. This is, without any doubt, the most difficult day of my life. I don’t think that I am afraid that I will hate how I look without breasts, or anything quite so mundane. And in some ways, its odd that the loss is what I fear so deeply when really, the only thing that matters in this scenario is whether or not the cancer has actually spread, setting up the scenario for metastasis. No, I think it has something to do with the impending reorganization of the topography of my body. I have inhabited this body for 48 years, and although I didn’t ever feel like I was particularly fond of my breasts, they are part of what Miller called the “temple of the familiar”. My body. My shape. And all this is about to change profoundly. It feels like I am about to participate in some kind of enforced phenomenological reorganization that could only ever come much too quickly. I could never be ready for this. I am terrified.
July 3, 2007 at 3:13 pm
I’m holding you in my heart, Mary, and thinking of you with much love.
That’s all that I can translate into words.
Silva
July 3, 2007 at 11:21 pm
I have always admired your courage; you are so much braver than I. You confront the world head-on–breaking the rules, changing the boundaries, and shattering our definitions of ‘the utterly impossible’, as you go. This one, this “enforced phenomenological reorganization”, is BIG. Yet, as usual, you have amazed me with the ways that you think about the unthinkable–even when unprepared and terrified on the hardest day of your life–you don’t flinch.
July 4, 2007 at 12:52 am
Just heard your news via Spike, and I am so sorry to find out you’re going through all this. My good thoughts to you as you recover from surgery and cope with the whole situation.
Tricia
July 5, 2007 at 4:17 am
Mary,
We don’t know each other - except from the LD Forum, and I met you once or twice through Anne-Marie - but I heard about your news through Spike and want to send my best wishes. I’m sorry for what you must be going through. I hope your surgery went well today.
Sincerely, Aaron
July 7, 2007 at 3:40 am
Mary both you and Janice are in my thoughts. I’m so sorry you have to face this challenge. I’m keeping thoughts of health, strength, and joy in my heart for you both.
Arli
July 8, 2007 at 5:04 am
Thanks to all of you. I am surrounded by so much love and kindness. Mary